Last week my Niece told me she is wanting to leave her marriage.
I have so many conflicting feelings and thoughts on this. Mostly I'm concerned for her and her two little kids. However it turns out it's going to be a hardship for the kids. I think they will adjust and I think they will be OK, just a new kind of OK. An "OK" that wasn't anticipated for them.
I so wish things could be "fixed" or made better. There used to be a series in the old "Ladies Home Journal" entitled, "Can This Marriage Be Saved?" They would give his side and her side and, then, the therapist's conclusions. Pretty simple on high gloss magazine paper. It's a lot craggier and complicated in reality.
Who's at fault? Nobody and everybody (but the kids). Teen marriage. Growing apart. Wanting different things. Passiveness. Passive-aggressiveness. Depression. Human-ness.
What's left? Sadness.
What's to come? I hope resolution. Reconciliation if possible but resolution, mostly. I hope growth for my Niece as her own person. A way to find her own path in life. Peace for the children. Good things for her spouse. A resettling in the extended-family dynamic to something a little more respectful and functional.
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